Not being able to get pregnant when you’re ready to start a family can cause anxiety, embarrassment, and unhappiness. It can even push couples apart at a time when they need to be strong together. You need to be able to talk with your partner regarding fertility.
At University Reproductive Associates (URA), our fertility experts can help start this difficult conversation and offer infertility treatment among other options to help you build the family you long for.
Beginning the discussion
It can be so hard to talk about fertility with your partner. If you’ve been unable to address the issue, getting started can be scary. You may be thinking, “What if they think I am blaming them? What if they blame me?”
Infertility is no one’s fault. There could be a medical issue with one or both of your reproductive systems preventing pregnancy. And if so, you’re certainly not to blame, and neither are they. That’s why knowledge regarding fertility is empowering.
Try approaching the issue with “we” statements. Say, “Hey, maybe we can schedule an appointment go see a fertility specialist together, and maybe they can help us get pregnant!” That unites you both, instead of saying any one individual is the source.
In fact, it’s been established that in couples with infertility issues:
- 30% of cases are due to male infertility
- 30% of cases are due to female infertility
- 20% of cases are due to both male and female infertility
- 20% of cases are completely unexplained
No matter which partner has fertility challenges, you can still create a family together.
Ignoring infertility isn’t the answer
Ignoring the issue isn’t healthy and can lead to anger, shame, resentment, and even break up a partnership. Infertility is also linked to poorer mental health. The best thing you can do is seek counseling from specialists who can address both the infertility and how it is affecting your relationship and mental health.
In many cases, treatment for an underlying condition in one or both parties can resolve the issue. In others, a more advanced treatment like intrauterine insemination (IUI) can help. For especially difficult cases, you may need to consider third party reproduction, such as the use of donor eggs, donor sperm, or a gestational carrier (surrogate). URA, with offices in Hasbrouck Heights, Wayne and Hoboken, New Jersey, can connect you to the right agency or bank that will best fit your needs in these situations.
Ready to talk about infertility? Learn more by speaking with the fertility specialists at University Reproductive Associates. To schedule a consultation, just call 201-288-6330 or visit the contact page for more information.